cynnbadd
Understood. Considering your occupation I believe you to have authoritative opinion on the subject. I appreciate your consideration of what I have said.
Regarding sticking around, I do like the site now I have read other threads. I think I may just get a different account name though. Don't want to be PursuingJaneGuy forever.
cynnbad
I'm not agreeing to be agreeable, but after all this I concur that the blog was a bad idea. But once again I really didn't intend for public viewing. My friends don't think I am a stalker and somehow I thought if the public were to view it, most wouldn't either. Just was not thinking I guess.
And as far as personal details of the subject, I don't have any personal details (maybe only a few) about her. I see your point though, that is why I never ever posted any emails she sent me or I sent her. Except the squirrel power-plant one. But that was fairly benign.
cynnbad
It's fine. I know real stalkers are out there and therefore I do understand why someone would think that. That's why I felt it was a bad idea to contact her in the first place. But I did anyway, and amazingly I heard from her. So I tried to keep the lines of communication open but eventually they stopped and hence the conclusion.
jb
Thin-skinned or not, I was just really surprised at so many negative reactions. One small thing which made me speak up here, was everyone said all sorts of comments here but not one of you directly to me. Kind of left me with a feeling of "if you have something to say, say it to my face." You know?
And I knew this post was on monkeyfilter because in one day I got like 1000 hits. So I looked in the referrer log of my website to find where the traffic was coming from.
Oh well. I've said my piece which is all I wanted to do. Whatever conclusion you arrive to I had a chance to defend myself.
Oh yeah, Bob Vila? Are you kidding, my song rocked! Just kidding, but seriously it wasn't Bob Vila sucky. Maybe Martha Stewart....
It really sucks that I had to wait 24 hours to respond. But anyhow, this not directed at all of you. Some of you I don't think really read anything I said. Maybe you did, but your still assuming a lot.
First of all the site was coming down anyway as I lead to in some of my posts. I saw she wasn't interested, so I basically told her good-bye, sent her the CD as a last ditch effort because I wrote the damn thing and figured I might as well. Oooh, that makes me a stalker?
Secondly, it's not like I didn't get a response from her. I heard from her twice and a few times through her friends. The entire time I was thinking she was probably just being nice as I said in some posts. Yeah, I'm real delusional if I am aware of the reality of the situation.
Finally, somehow my last post on the front page escaped everyone. "This has nothing to do with Jane but another woman entirely" as I recall that post starting out. If I have been in the process of dating other women as this has been unfolding, "monomania" and "obsessive" really don't apply then.
Oh well, it's much ado about nothing at this point. I'm really just more surprised about how quickly people are to judge/jump to conclusions when they don't know someone or the full story. Oh and how little people care about people they don't know. I guess I've been naive in that respect.
For the rest of you, thanks for thinking a little bit more objectively. Just because some guy pursues a woman from TV (for a month) and writes a blog which was actually intended for friends, doesn't mean he's a stalker or nutcase. Our close-minded society is too quick to put labels on people. It's sad really.
Well that was fun (sarcasim).
Take care, bye.
cynnbadd Understood. Considering your occupation I believe you to have authoritative opinion on the subject. I appreciate your consideration of what I have said. Regarding sticking around, I do like the site now I have read other threads. I think I may just get a different account name though. Don't want to be PursuingJaneGuy forever.
posted by PursuingJaneGuy 20 years ago
cynnbad I'm not agreeing to be agreeable, but after all this I concur that the blog was a bad idea. But once again I really didn't intend for public viewing. My friends don't think I am a stalker and somehow I thought if the public were to view it, most wouldn't either. Just was not thinking I guess. And as far as personal details of the subject, I don't have any personal details (maybe only a few) about her. I see your point though, that is why I never ever posted any emails she sent me or I sent her. Except the squirrel power-plant one. But that was fairly benign.
posted by PursuingJaneGuy 20 years ago
cynnbad It's fine. I know real stalkers are out there and therefore I do understand why someone would think that. That's why I felt it was a bad idea to contact her in the first place. But I did anyway, and amazingly I heard from her. So I tried to keep the lines of communication open but eventually they stopped and hence the conclusion. jb Thin-skinned or not, I was just really surprised at so many negative reactions. One small thing which made me speak up here, was everyone said all sorts of comments here but not one of you directly to me. Kind of left me with a feeling of "if you have something to say, say it to my face." You know? And I knew this post was on monkeyfilter because in one day I got like 1000 hits. So I looked in the referrer log of my website to find where the traffic was coming from. Oh well. I've said my piece which is all I wanted to do. Whatever conclusion you arrive to I had a chance to defend myself. Oh yeah, Bob Vila? Are you kidding, my song rocked! Just kidding, but seriously it wasn't Bob Vila sucky. Maybe Martha Stewart....
posted by PursuingJaneGuy 20 years ago
It really sucks that I had to wait 24 hours to respond. But anyhow, this not directed at all of you. Some of you I don't think really read anything I said. Maybe you did, but your still assuming a lot. First of all the site was coming down anyway as I lead to in some of my posts. I saw she wasn't interested, so I basically told her good-bye, sent her the CD as a last ditch effort because I wrote the damn thing and figured I might as well. Oooh, that makes me a stalker? Secondly, it's not like I didn't get a response from her. I heard from her twice and a few times through her friends. The entire time I was thinking she was probably just being nice as I said in some posts. Yeah, I'm real delusional if I am aware of the reality of the situation. Finally, somehow my last post on the front page escaped everyone. "This has nothing to do with Jane but another woman entirely" as I recall that post starting out. If I have been in the process of dating other women as this has been unfolding, "monomania" and "obsessive" really don't apply then. Oh well, it's much ado about nothing at this point. I'm really just more surprised about how quickly people are to judge/jump to conclusions when they don't know someone or the full story. Oh and how little people care about people they don't know. I guess I've been naive in that respect. For the rest of you, thanks for thinking a little bit more objectively. Just because some guy pursues a woman from TV (for a month) and writes a blog which was actually intended for friends, doesn't mean he's a stalker or nutcase. Our close-minded society is too quick to put labels on people. It's sad really. Well that was fun (sarcasim). Take care, bye.
posted by PursuingJaneGuy 20 years ago
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