June 18, 2004
It's going to be a small wedding with about 40 or 50 people and we're on a limited budget. My mother is going to pay for the dress though (yay!). We have possible family issues--domineering mother in law, small = not a lot of extended family is being invited, I have a dad I'm not terribly close to and a step-dad I adore (who walks me?! eek!). What did your Maid of Honor do that really helped? Was there anything that surprised you about planning? Are there certain things I should be aware of early on? What things did you find were must haves and what kind of expectations did you have to let go of? Guys: how involved did you want to be in the planning, what kinds of things did you like to take care of? Thanks for your words of wisdom. They will be much appreciated.
drunksgroomsmen, etc.). I was in on decorations, reception, music, preacher, photography, all the big picture stuff. She did the dresses and flowers. Bridesmaids should be your wingpersons on this, seriously. Your maid of honor doesn't necessarily have to be the wedding coordinator, but she should make herself available to back you up (run errands, rub your back when you want to scream, etc) -- at least, this is my understanding. I won't pretend to know your family situation and won't pry, but I think your dad has to win by default. Your step will understand, much as I'm sure he loves you. Your father, though you may not be close, loves you too, I guarantee it. All things being equal, not giving him that privilege could further hurt things between you. But if he walks you (unless there's some serious hatred here you're too shy to mention), neither one of you will ever regret it.