March 12, 2004

• Speaking of miscarriages, lightly related.
• I feel that I should qualify: I absolutely don't mean to make light of anybody else's pain. However, the pastels, the constant references to little angels watching from heaven, the incessant baby talk, and the naming of and crooning to unborn infants (esp. by women with many other children), all conspired to give these sites a gawk-at-the-roadside accident quality for me. I recognize the questionable taste of my posting.
• Agreed, Goetter. If the site helps people, great, but its tone seems condescending. If someone tried talking to me that way under similar circumstances, I'd probably be creeped out and really angry. But then I built a shrine when my 20-year-old cat died, so I'm one to talk. Grief is a strange beast. (And apologies if the comparison comes off as belittling or apples-to-oranges-offensive. It wasn't meant that way.) Gyan: that article, that picture. Wow. Just. Wow. Don't know where to start on that one.
• i suppose there is no understanding someone else's grief and ways of expressing it. even as a mother, i don't comprehend anything so maudlin...maybe if i'd had a miscarriage i'd understand. i knew someone who carried the picture of her stillborn in it's casket, to show to people.....i had a problem composing the appropriate facial and verbal response to that one.
• appropo qualification big g. My first response on this link was a big ol' "WTF" on your post, but cooler heads and your past history suggested precisely what you said. See, if this was METAFILTER... /finds dead horse, beats it soundly.
• See, if this was METAFILTER... Your hit counter wouldn't be getting so much play.
• See, if this was METAFILTER... Your hit counter wouldn't be getting so much play. Whats forks' poor little hit counter ever done to you, Sullivan...
• Playa hata. its tone seems condescending It all seems somewhat exploitative to me. As if the site was built by somebody arrested in a particular stage of their grieving who now uses others' pain (attracted by the site) to remain locked in that particular stage. I built a shrine when my 20-year-old cat died And I, to my 17-y-o. In fact, I'll probably visit it this afternoon, to see if the snow has melted down that far (it is getting pretty warm here). I still miss the little shit. But I don't invite strangers back there. My grief was private. Anyway, enough 'splaining. Thanks to airbody for not jumping my ass right off the bat.
• dxlifter: i don't comprehend anything so maudlin goetter: It all seems somewhat exploitative to me. Much better analyses. "Condescending" was definitely inaccurate, but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. Interesting topic, y'all. I still miss the little shit. /salutes