March 22, 2006

• Are we to read anything into the fact that you're a 'Simian XY', and you're talking about a male spouse? If it's a gay marriage, there could be plenty of reasons why wearing a ring makes him 'uncomfortable' -- namely attitudes towards gays in your community, or his work, or such? Or is this a simple posting error?
• Nothing is to be construed by the fact that I posted it. We simply have two genders in case someone is more comfortable approaching a man or woman with an anon question.
• If it's bothering you, then it's a problem and needs to be discussed with him. There are two positive solutions to the problem: 1. You understand his reasons for not wearing his ring and it (honestly) no longer bothers you. 2. He understands your concerns and starts wearing the ring. Not discussing it or not finding a solution that you're both comfortable with could lead to resentment and bigger problems.
• I've always wondered what I would do if I got married, because I can't stand wearing rings. But I think if I found it too annoying I would make darn sure my spouse understood and was OK with it before opting to go without it. Mom never wore a ring, because Dad was too cheap to replace the one that slipped down the sink drain.
• I've always hated wearing a ring, but now that I'm married, I wear one. The ring is somewhat uncomfortable (especially in warm weather--the dreaded hot dog fingers), but I wear it anyway. It's respectful to my spouse and it's also a symbol of my pride in my marriage. But if it bothers you enough that you have to post anonymously on the internet about it, you must talk to him. Sit him down. Let it all out. I don't think he really understands how you feel. Nor do you understand how he feels, for that matter.
• You know, I tend not to wear mine. No big deal, I think for men, wearing a ring just takes some getting used to. Don't worry about it.
• In love, there is always one who kisses and one who offers the cheek
• Of cours, now that I've read this post, I just put it back on. Heh. My biggest problem is that it keeps slipping off when it gets cold. And when the Dark One's servants are on the hunt, of course.
• my wife and i decided not to wear rings and actually left the whole ring thing out of the ceremony. there was a number of reasons 1. i have never liked wearing rings 2. we are both quite private people and do not feel the need to advertise our marital status 3. it is a strange thing to invest a material object with such responsibility for symbolising your relationship. without a ring we can avoid the feelings you have now because the ring means so much more to you than just a piece of hand decoration 4. how much of an omen would it be if one of you lost the ring. if you accept the symbolism of it then surely the marriage is doomed. we still wanted something to bond us together so we got small love heart tattoos the day before our wedding in our own small private commitment ceremony. maybe your spouse does find it uncomfortable. did he wear rings prior to marriage? ask him if he would consider wearing it or carrying it in some other way - on a chain, on his keyring or maybe you could attempt to divest the ring of all its symbolism and not get hung up about it, given "there's no possibility of cheating, and there's sincere love & a solid commitment to our shared future"
• Shouldn't it be "Simian XX / XY" then ? I hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate rings & jewelry. Get it off, get it off, get iT OFF GET IT OFF!!! (I really hate the feel & look of it - even watches) No reason. Just do. Ms. Best isn't too happy and I try to work on it - I wear it out to events and things, but holy goddamn fuck do I hate wearing it. It means absolutely nothing in terms of "what it means" about our relationship. I try to explain it like this: Some people like to have their cock heads or clitoriseses pierced. I, sir, do not. It's like that. Absolute drive-me-nuts uncomfort. And that's all, really.
• If he's being honest about just not liking to wear a ring, perhaps you can have it made into some other sort of jewelry. Would he wear it on a nice chain around his neck? If it has diamonds or other stones, is it possible to take one or two out for earring(s)? Even a bracelet or watch could be a possibility.
• My husband only wears his when he's out of the house, and takes it off at home. I lost mine 4 years ago and haven't been able to replace it yet, so I wear just a simple silver ring in its place. I would like for us to have matching rings again, but I don't think I'd be terribly bothered if neither of us wore one. On one hand, it's just a ring; it's a symbol, a souvenir, nothing else. On the other hand, it obviously bothers you a good deal, so the two of you need to come to some understanding, either way.
• I wear my ring about 50% of the time. I have mild eczema and am allergic to wearing a lot of metals so I can wear my ring for a few weeks at a time, but eventually the itching gets too much and I have to take them off for a week. Often I just forget to put them back on after that. #2 went through a period of not wearing his because he was working in an electronics lab. He also won't wear a watch. So I guess what I'm saying is, ask him to explain why he's not wearing it. Chances are there's some perfectly reasonable explanation -- reasonable to him at least. Because we are so casual about our rings, I don't attach a lot of symbolism to it. It's just a ring!
• Shouldn't it be "Simian XX / XY" then? I am Simian XX! Check the profile! And we'll talk about this 'Ms. Best' later, young man!
• Ulp!
• Let's see, my wife and I have been married nine years in April, together 14 years in August. We wear our rings a couple of times a year. When we travel, usually. Otherwise, annoying. Oh, and our rings? $60 each from the NPR catalog in 1997. Sterling silver. Symbolic. We both thought then as now that the importance attached to rings when getting engaged and married was silly. Research recently convinced me that not only is it silly, but it's a "tradition" in the sense that when the diamond industry was flailing to survive in the early 20th century that they successfully hired an ad agency to push the ideas of diamond rings as a proper token of proposal for marriage, and after 75-80 years of this, well, people have come to believe it. Take his word for it, rings are uncomfortable for those that type all day or do anything with their hands. I am hoping that the ubiquity of computers at all levels of the workplace will start to mean rings phasing out as fashionable over time.
• Oh -- good. We'll also need to have a talk about you trawling by not wearing your wedding ring...
• (Intended for Koko, obv. Preview is for suckers.)
• If he never wore a ring before, and doesn't wear other jewelry, I'd say he's being honest that it's uncomfortable. In the chimaera household, we both take our rings off when we get home... it seems to be part of the ritual of taking off our watches, emptying our pockets, etc., to be more comfortable. When I'm at home, if I'm wearing my ring it feels kind of odd, and when I'm out, if I'm not wearing it, it also feels odd.
• I'm wearing a ring, which actually isn't much different than the one I lost, which was also silver ($15 each, I win, smallerdemon!) I want to replace them with matching stainless steel rings. Stainless steel is the new platinum, IMO! And it will cost us under $150 for both.
• Another jewerlyphobe, here. Yes, just the way one gets wired early on, I guess. Recently a close relative in the process of getting married showed me her rings and asks me, 'hey, try it on, I'd love to see how you'd look a married man...' No, couldn't do it. And guess it won't be a problem if I ever do go steady; if we're in such an agreeement over spending the rest of our lives together, guess that would be another already agreed upon item.... I suppose. Sure.
• Rings being uncomfortable for many guys. They can also just interfere with general day-to-day business, even when they aren't a danger. There also could be a strong fear of losing it. The bad fit, it may be due to not being sized properly, or it may be that he is just one of those body types that rings fit poorly on. Even when someone's body doesn't go through the flux that it sounds like he does, there are body types where rings just don't fit well. For you, it sounds like wedding rings symbolize your love. For others, a ring just symbolizes you are married. He already knows you are married, and its difficult for him do see a need to prove to you that you are married. You use the ring as a symbol as your love, he uses the actual marriage. (I'm not saying either view is "right" or better, I'm just point out where and how two different views conflict)
• um, That should start of with: Rings are uncomfortable... (I edited it a couple times, that sentence started off with a completely different tense.)
• As to discomfort, unless you have an ill-fitting ring (or a not very well designed one) or have a skin condition like tracicle's, after wearing it several weeks on a daily basis, you don't even realize it's on. If you just sort of muddle through it you won't even notice after awhile. In fact, if anything, you notice when it's off
• Ask him to get a Prince Albert [NSFW] instead!
• Some guys have been affected by horror stories that usually involve falling off a roof, catching oneself by the gutter, and the ring tearing off the finger. See also: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t64992/?goto=nextoldest
• Married, don't even own a ring. Can't be playing my bass with a bunch of junk on my hand.
• I second Minda's suggestion of wearing it on a chain around his neck. That might be a nice compromise. I'm another jewelryphobe. I've lost a billion watches and bracelets because I can't stand to keep anything on. Rings, too. I take them off without even realizing it and then lose them. It's especially hard for me to wear a ring and type a lot. Friends of mine who wear three or four rings, 10 bracelets, 3 pairs of earrings and two necklaces at a time as a rule think I'm nuts. They give me the old "wear them a few weeks and you'll get used to them", but I've tried and I can't. So I add my voice to the chorus of people who say he probably really is uncomfortable wearing it. To those of us who aren't comfortable wearing jewelry it's akin to a pebble in the shoe or a scratchy tag in a shirt that prickles you all day.
• If you notice the ring, it is badly made. A ring should be comfortable.
• When pressed for a reason, it's either "uncomfortable" or "annoying" or "gets in the way." You may be reading to much into his not wearing it, as these are the very same reasons I rarely wear mine (like others here, when I travel, to events, etc...). Some folks just dont like jewelry and it is as simple as that. If your relationship is strong, I wouldn't worry too much about the baubles.
• so you can all send the extra jewelry to me. I love the stuff. my dad has never worn his wed ring, due to a really gruesome, leprosy-like allergy...and it never stopped him from cheating on my mom--not once!
• I am not wearing my ring right now, as I have been doing some hard manual earth moving work lately. I will be sure to slip it back one once the project is done, however. It is a good looking, custom made, red and white gold ring that complements the one my wife has. I do not like not having it on, as I am used to it. However, at first I was not used to it and was bothered by it. In the last 15 years I have had the ring fixed twice. Once, I dropped a keg of beer on my hand, and the ring turned into an oval shape. The second time I fell and jammed my ring finger (none of the others were affected), which swelled rapidly. I had to cut it off, that time. These incidents cause me to believe that rings are not made for hard work and play. So, I am used to the ring, it makes my wife happy, and it feels real because it is gold. But it is a hassle.
• so how do you keep the ring on after having yr ring finger cut off?
• I still got six fingers. I decided it was better to cut of *the ring* than risk a trip to the hospital.
• If someone else mentioned this, i missed it and apologize.. I would speculate that the larger issue here is that you're worried about it, and 2, that you can't accept his answer..... those might be the important issues to discuss... good luck in resolving this...
• Tattoo one on?
• chimaera, Mr. Minda and I take off our rings when we're in for the night, too. It's part of the nightly "comfy pants" ritual. If we stay in all day, the rings never get put on at all. Also, count me in on the inexpensive wedding jewelry crowd. Mr. Minda got a nice white & yellow gold band that cost more than both my rings put together, and his wasn't very expensive at that. The only thing that I would have wanted over the simple rings I have was titanium, but there was just no way I was willing to have that much spent on jewelry, no matter how special. smallerdemon, I had no idea! That makes me even more glad I didn't get a big rock. "Two months salary" my ass!
• I am allergic to my first wedding ring (insert your own joke....) and would get blisters under the band. We guess it was the nickel content. I did not wear a ring for 10 years. I now have a platinum band. No blisters, but I worry about losing it. I sometimes wear it, sometimes not. I am still not quite used to it.
• It's not just men who aren't used to wearing rings - I never ever wore a ring before being engaged, and my engagement ring chafed for weeks. That said, there are solutions. I specifically have a rounded "comfort fit" gold ring. It doesn't chafe or cut my ringer the way the ones that are flat cut on the inside do. But before anyone makes fun of me, I would just like to take the opportunity to point out that the One Ring is (at least in the film) also comfort fit. Apparently Sauron has delicate fingers.
• I would like to state for the record that neither Mr Horse or I wear our rings. He works around dangerous machines, repairs cars, uses power tools, fixes fence, etc, etc. I decided long ago, even if it gave me a bit of a pang, rather he didn't wear it then having to call him Ol' ThreeFingers. My first two wedding rings had to be cut off. After several times mashing the first thin one on the saddle horn and dinking around with the horses, I finally bent it so badly that it cut off my circulation, and my finger swelled twice the size, and I had to have it cut off (the ring.) Mr. Horse then bought me a lovely, thick, wide, and sturdy Black Hills gold ring. I never mashed that one, but when I broke my ring finger, the effect was the same, and I had to have it cut off. Mr. Horse then bought me a lovely silver knot ring whilst we were overseas, but it had to be so big to fit over my poor arthritic knuckle that it flops around my finger. Some of us were destined not to wear rings.
• I cannot stand wearing jewelry of any sort. It is more than annoying, it makes me claustrophobic. I scratch at the jewelry, I tug at it, I shift it back and forth, I take it off. I don't wear watches. I have no piercings. I don't wear necklaces. Everyone else where I work wears a badge around their neck, but I cannot, I need to wear it "clamped" to my shirt. I don't wear rings. My (ex) wife, whom I loved dearly, bought me the absolutely most beautiful ring in the world. Gold with raised hebrew letters. Those letters were so sharp! We had them buffed down, but it made no difference. The ring was beautiful, and annoying, and distracting. I could not be with my precious. I could not wear it while engaged in thought. I could not wear it on long drives. I could not wear it with a fox, I could not wear it in a box. I could not wear it here or there, I could not wear it anywhere. It was amazingly beautiful and though we are divorced, I wish I had it still, and I wish I could be wearing it now. And while there never was any issue of love or commitment, or affairs, my not wearing that ring really was a big issue for my (ex) wife. I think I may have a mild form of Aspergers, but I just do not wear jewelry. What are the reasons why his not wearing a ring bothers you?
• Like many other commenters in this thread, my hubby and I don't wear rings either. First there was the drama of finding something that would be ok on his big knobbly hands and on my delicate little fingers. He managed to break his in a couple of months. I gave up on wearing mine because it was a bit big. He bought me a little silver ring with an emerald in it - which I usually wear when I go out. But at home? Nah. Typing, doing stuff, moisturizing my hands etc etc can't be bothered with taking it on and off. There is no outside pressure here though (in Japan) to wear rings - because not all married people do anyway. A while back many companies did not allow men to wear any jewellry. I guess this is just another personal anecdote to reassure you that not all married people wear rings for a variety of reasons. Hopefully there should be enough trust in your relationship that you both don't need to brand yourself to show that you are together.
• When pressed for a reason, it's either "uncomfortable" or "annoying" or "gets in the way." Why the scare quotes? Those are good reasons. And if as you say, you are pressing him, he will start seeming defensive, because he knows you're unhappy.
• Married, no ring, no watch (well actually I have a 2$ Burger King Star Wars watch in my pocket, because I hate Star Wars and watches), no cellphone. Same for my partner. We had a very low key wedding and both don't like wearing jewelry (unpierced ears!) so rings were never a point of discussion.
• Is it possible that your husband has a mild metal allergy? That can make wearing a ring uncomfortable. My mom developed a gold allergy all at once one night when I was about 5 years old. Her finger swelled up and turned colors and we had to go over to my Paw Paw's house so he could cut the ring off. She didn't wear a wedding ring regularly until my dad bought her a platinum set for their 25th anniversary, so there was a 20 year gap in there where my dad wore his ring but she didn't. While there were some jokes about my dad marrying a "fast woman," it didn't bother them too much. Then, my dad lost lots of weight during a health crisis, and now he doesn't wear his ring sometimes because it's too big.
• I've decided it's his choice Needs the FARK unlikely tag.
• I am shopping for a ring in the hopes that she'll say yes. This thread is making me think of the 1000s of things we can do with the 1000s of dollars I'm about to plunk down.
• Oh yeah, in our privatest of moments, everything is off, rings, ear rings, necklaces, glasses, shoes...
• Most of the things I was going to say have been said: rings are uncomfortable if you're not used to wearing them, but you have to muddle through it for like two weeks, a month, and you stop noticing them. If a ring that you should be wearing bothers you, you can't give in and take it off after a few days! If you do, you'll never, ever get used to it. I didn't get my engagement ring for like 8 months after I got engaged, but during that period I wore another ring I had that mostly fit the finger. The end result was that when I got the real engagement ring, I had no problem wearing it. I had "trained the finger." (Yes, that phrase is worth mocking: go to it, my friends!) My fiance does not plan to wear his wedding ring much, because he's a printer, as well as a left-handed pro comic book artist, and he works with presses and copiers all day. This kind of bothers me, but I'd rather he didn't wear the damn ring than that he lost a finger on his drawing hand. The thing is, I don't think he will remember to put it back on when he gets home. We're still trying to think of a solution to this - frankly, guys who don't want to wear rings CERTAINLY aren't going to want to wear chains around their necks. If he hates wearing the ring and it really bothers you, consider getting small matching tattoos, which is what several couples I know have done. (It's kind of a punk rock cliche.) Yeah, nothing that hadn't already been said.
• I didnt get my engagement ring until about 6 months after our offical engagement. I just like jewelry, or we probably would have skipped it entirely...
• I dislike constrictive things on me -- have skin that reacts dramatically to pressure (dermographia) while prolonged contact with metal can give me blisters/lesions. But if I lacked these useless tendencies, I would say what BlueHorse said.
• I would just like to take the opportunity to point out that the One Ring is also comfort fit One True Ring: - Wearer becomes invisible - Must do everything dark-lord asks - No more loving relationship with male servant - Endless hassle from old guy with white beard - Have to move to Mordor - Comfort fit Wedding Ring: - Wearer becomes invisible to other hotties - Must do everything spouse-lord asks - No more loving relationships with male servants - Endless hassle from mother-in-law with white beard - Have to move to suburbs - Comfort fit
• Oh man, y'know I was watching this whole thread before I realized y'all were talking about a cock-ring! Ha! Oh is my face red! Thanks for setting me straight quidnunc!
• We have silver bands ($12 for both, heh, we're so romantic - maybe we'll replace them someday). I'm not into expensive jewelry. I'd worry about losing it. Plus, conflict diamonds, no. He was not keen on the idea of wearing jewelry at all, and said rings "felt weird". But he's the one that wears his ring 24/7 now. Never takes it off even to shower or sleep. I only wore mine if I left the house. As soon as I came home, I took my rings, watch, and any necklace/earrings off immediately. They feel constricting on me in a way I don't notice much out in public. (I also get into jammies as soon as I get home too, so.) I stopped wearing my ring altogether the first time I got pregnant, because with the weight gain my fingers swelled up and it hurt to wear it - eventually I couldn't even get it on or off. I wore it on a chain around my neck for a while. When I lost the weight I wore it again, but when I gained it back in the next pregnancy I stopped. I don't wear any jewelry now as a matter of course. I'm out of the habit. He doesn't mind if I wear my ring or not. I would feel weird if he stopped wearing his, but only because he *always* wears it. If he hadn't taken to it initially, I don't think it would bother me. You could get tattooed bands. Permanent rings! ;)
• My husband and I wear inexpensive plain gold rings. They don't interfere with anything I do (though I once had an allergy attack, my fingers swelled up, and I had to have the ring cut off, which was no big deal). My husband says that any married man who doesn't wear a ring is not to be trusted.
• My husband says that any married man who doesn't wear a ring is not to be trusted. It doesn't, of course, follow logically that those who do wear 'em can be!
• My husband says that any married man who doesn't wear a ring is not to be trusted. To make a joke about this, form a line to the left and take a number.
• I have to agree with cutflank's husband. There are a bazillion reasons not to trust us, and that one seems particularly crystaline, esp. in light of the floofy answers to the question of why. Mine never comes off. Honestly, Even if I was of the mind to remove it, I'd be afraid of losing it, which would result in far more marital discord than I care to deal with at this juncture of my life.
• Wedding Ring: - Wearer becomes invisible to other hotties Heh. No. If anything, the opposite.
• You will burn in hell, adulterer.
• Likely so, but not for that.
• I always keep mine on, primarily because I know I'll lose it otherwise. The only times I take it off are when my chemo starts making my fingers swell, at which point the ring makes my finger break out with a weird rash. I always keep it with me though - generally tied to the loop of my cellphone, though if I have to go through much more chemo, I'll probably get a necklace for it. The benefits? Having a ring on gives me something to do. Plus, it gives me an easy excuse for all of the hot women who constantly throw themselves at me. "Sorry ladies, I'm taken." Sure it doesn't make me invisible to them, but I wasn't before, being dead sexy and all. Oh, and as for the question itself, I also recommend a good sit-down talk about it between the two of you. Just be sure and tell him why you're concerned.
• I never knew that so many people were opposed or didn't care about wedding rings. For me, it's an issue of pride. I'm really proud of my husband and that I'm married to him and it makes me happy to demonstrate it to the world. My husband actually has two rings because he didn't want to be left out of the engagement ring experience (he wears the ring I bought him after we got engaged on his right hand and the ring we bought for the ceremony on his left). Both of us rarely take them off. For us, the rings are a very important symbol of our love and commitment to each other, so I didn't want the poster to feel like she's a freak because it's important to her. And the point is, if it *is* important to you, then don't let him give you the brush off about the issue and let him know it's not a small thing for you.
• My husband says that any married man who doesn't wear a ring is not to be trusted. Yeah, this kinda makes me a little mad actually. When I tried to explain to friends at the reception why I didn't like wearing the ring they laughed and said "Ohh riiiiight!" as if my sole purpose in not wearing it is to cheat. Well, fuck you, ignorant friends, shove your crass assertions up your . . . GRRRR. I HATE THE FEELING, OKAY? If you can't understand that - if you've never been uncomfortable - then I guess we'll just agree to disagree. If you have been made uncomfortable by some kind of external influence such as wet clothes, bruised bones, open cuts, recent tattoo, pierced face, somebody poking you in the bellybutton, screaming in your ear, whatever - that's how it feels to me. after wearing it several weeks on a daily basis, you don't even realize it's on. Nope, not me. It clicks when I touch things, it makes me feel like I have arthritis in one finger, it's ugly, it itches, you have to take it off to dry your hands, IT SUCKS AND I HATE IT. Apologies for the excessive passion about the issue, it's just that . . well, I really really hate it. Okay, I'll go back on *mute*
• My husband says that any married man who doesn't wear a ring is not to be trusted. Yeah, this kinda makes me a little mad actually. When I tried to explain to friends at the reception why I didn't like wearing the ring they laughed and said "Ohh riiiiight!" as if my sole purpose in not wearing it is to cheat. Well, fuck you, ignorant friends, shove your crass assertions up your . . . GRRRR. HEY! That's not a joke! *takes number back from Petebest*
• wow, petebest thats EXACTLY how I feel when other people think they can tell me that in fact I DO want to have an baby, altho I have clearly stated that I don't. because they would know my mind better than I do, and ALL women want babies, don't we? or to quote "GRRRRR"!
• I'll take yours, then. Medium rare, hold the wasabi mayonnaise.
• C'mon, Medusa, the corollary to "Men who don't want to wear rings can't be trusted" has surely got to be "Women who don't want to have a baby can't be trusted." In other words, your husband has some weird ideas about trust and mistrust, cutflank.
• I DO have arthrtis in one finger. It sucks big time. (It's the ring finger, too, oddly enough.) Best of luck with the chemo, Mondoggie.
• "Men who don't want to wear rings can't be trusted" :: "Women who don't want to have a baby can't be trusted." Apples and oranges! I think there is a rather obvious 400 lb gorillaesque purpose for which a husband would not want to wear a wedding ring. Now, perhaps in pete's case - hell, perhaps in most of the cases mentioned above - there is a perfectly valid reason not related to copping some extracurricular for which a man might opt not to wear his wedding ring. But, Occam's Razor intact, I think we can safely say that, if this were Family Feud, the #1 answer for "Why Don't Men Wear Their Wedding Rings" would be "de-emphasize marital status in futherance of nefarious adulteratory booty-getting."
• I was hoping that I was being transparently facetious, Fes. I had no real intent other than to point out the absurdity of the original sentence.
• *buries face in hands* I'm a dork.
• Wait! I'm not a dork, I disagree that the claim is absurd. yeah, that's the ticket!
• I have to agree with the theory that a wedding ring gets one MORE action. mr. medusa actually tells girls about me as a way of seducing them, ie "yeah, my wife is so cool blah blah give me yr phone number"....and it works!
• *bites clean through tongue*
• Well, it's as absurd as any other generality, and perhaps indicated a bit of projection. "Well, the only reason I would do X is if I were up to something; therefore anyone who does X is not to be trusted" is a path of thinking that betrays a lack of nuance and a sense of absolutism.
• Monkeyfilter: A lack of nuance and a sense of absolutism /couldn't resist :D
• I think we can safely say that, if this were Family Feud, the #1 answer for "Why Don't Men Wear Their Wedding Rings" would be "de-emphasize marital status in futherance of nefarious adulteratory booty-getting." Are you fucking serious? You must surround yourself with pretty shitty individuals for you to think this would be the most common reason.
• MonkeyFilter: ...wet clothes, bruised bones, open cuts, recent tattoo, pierced face, somebody poking you in the bellybutton, screaming in your ear, whatever - that's how it feels to me.
• GramMa wins!
• Medusa, people say that to you because of people like my husband and me. Mr. Minda and I DID NOT want children, and were vocal about it. Two years later, I'm pregnant and excited about it. Sorry 'bout that.
• I see! well....I guess I'll have to send my tiny henchelves over to pinch you...and POKE you!!! and poo in yr oatmeal bwah ha ha hahaaaa!
• I have to agree with the theory that a wedding ring gets one MORE action. *self-ignites in sudden flash of burning envy* Seconded. *grumble*
• GramMa wins! Yay! We all get cookies and weed now, right?
• I'll never be able to look at a bowl of oatmeal the same again.
• **GramMa ties on apron, pins blue ribbon to shoulder, begins making a batch of cookies and stirring the Koolade** After this comes out of the oven, I'm heading out to work in the garden a while
• For what it's worth, Simian XY, way back in the days when I was one of a pair of ring-wearers, I would've been very bothered with t'other making assorted excuses as to why he wouldn't wear it, after we had agreed that we wanted to wear them. But I was also in a situation back then where continued probing into the matter would result in an angry explosion, rather than a calm discussion, and to preclude discord, I would've let the matter drop, like I did so many other troubling aspects then. I hope you're not in the same boat. If you are, it may be time to investigate counselling, or more soul-searching, at least. You are a person, not just (the lesser?) half of an alliance. (I'm a happy, happy monkey now, though!)
• Not to wax all serious, of course, but listening to amberglow's 1982 show on radio Metachat tonight refreshed my atrophied braincells somewhat. Back to rubber chickens and whoopie cushions now.
• You must surround yourself with pretty shitty individuals for you to think this would be the most common reason. No, but I have known one or two, and that was their reason. Most of the men I know wear their fucking wedding rings and don't do a lot of pissing and moaning about how it's just too uncomfortable to bear or they're deathly afraid they're going to get their fingers ripped off.
• *still not wearing a ring*
• *dips ring finger in newly-acquired Marmite, prepares to be horrified*
• OMG! It's tar!
• I know what you're up to, Wolof, you bass-playing philandering philanderer!
• *is totally rumbled*
• Isn't it the case that if you Mark Your Territory with jewelry, that you're making a very small, reversible impression? Why not chop off a toe or an ear? Much cheaper.
• I could see chopping off a toe. Not like I'm using them much. An ear, well, I wear glasses.
• I got tattooed on my wedding day. Still wear the ring. 'S'not uncomfortable. Far less uncomfortable than getting the tatt, in point of fact. Which reminds me, I want another tattoo.
• Rings are not hard once you get used to them - the difficulty is the importance your partner attaches to them. I wore my engagement ring day in day out until i was in trouble for 'getting it dirty doing the washing up and cleaning in it" apparently i respected the symbolism but not the cost. "Warning Bill Robinson'. He saw the price - i saw the symbolism.
• I got tattooed on my wedding day ... Which reminds me, I want another tattoo You will burn in hell, bigamist.
• No, but I have known one or two, and that was their reason. Anyone who is taking off their ring to cheat is damn sure to put when their wife is around. The people you surround yourself with must be pretty damn stupid on top of being scum.
• You must surround yourself with pretty shitty individuals... The people you surround yourself with must be pretty damn stupid on top of being scum. Ax-grinder, ax-grinder, grind me an ax, file me a file, hone me some tacks...
• And another thing about Fes' coterie is that they have smelly butts and they like to smell their own butts. *checks for ring - confirmed - continue not wearing* "Warning Bill Robinson' WAH! HA!
• If I wasn't trying valiantly not to be a hypersensitive dick, Mr. Knickerbocker, I'd almost think you were trying to hurt my feelings.
• But I have to concede on the smell their own butts thing.
• You just feel that way because you're a gay-bashing baby-killer. But you're a damn handsome man and I imagine you cut a fine rug.
• I have a three-year-old that is very good at kissing feelings better. Apparently feelings are in your shoulder. Remember that.
• *lower lip tremble* that . . is . . . so . . . sweet . . . /logout
• what I want to know is do Fes' cohorts smell each others smelly butts?